Can I ask you something?
Think about a goal you’ve been carrying for a while. Something you keep coming back to. Something that matters to you.
Now ask yourself, is it really yours? Or is it being driven by fear?
Because here’s what I see over and over in my work as a psychologist specialized in anxiety: we set goals that look like aspirations but are actually running on anxiety.
This week on the Playing-it-Safe podcast, I’m talking about the three goal traps I see most, and why most of us don’t even realize we’re in them.
Show notes with time-stamps
0:00 The coaching client with the “wrong” goal
1:50 Playing-it-safe behavior #8: chasing outcomes and emotions you can’t control
2:55 Edwin Locke and Gary Latham’s goal-setting theory
3:49 Heidi Grant Halvorson: approach vs. avoidance goals
4:33 Tali Sharot’s research on the optimism bias & the arrival fallacy
5:15 Robert Emmons’ research on self-concordant goals
6:06 The values-based goals and actions exercise (ACT Workbook, chapter 6)
6:56 Identifying the internal obstacle to your values-based action
8:21 This week’s challenge: identify your goal type
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