Two crucial tips to distinguish effective safety behaviors – playing-it-safe moves – from ineffective ones

Thinking repetitively about future and past painful feelings, events and failures, Searching for certainty, predictability, & re-assurance

This is a super special interview with one of my favorite colleagues and author, Jonathan Kaplan, Ph.D., author of “Urban Mindfulness.”

Key Takeaways

In this conversation we discussed:

  • One of Jonathan’s favorite mindfulness exercises: sending warm wishes to people around you
  • Why playing-it-safe behaviors are natural
  • What is a playing-it-safe move
  • Two skills to distinguish effective playing-it-safe moves from ineffective ones
  • How to handle uncertainty
  • How to handle ruling-thoughts about thinking (metacognitions)

In the middle of the conversation, you will hear me practicing “how to say” one of my favorite words in English and one of Jonathan’s favorite jokes related to anxiety and playing-it-safe.

About Jonathan Kaplan, Ph.D.

In 1991, Jonathan earned a B.A. in Asian Studies (Japanese) from Tufts University.  After spending a few years working in law, he later earned both his M.A. and Ph.D. in clinical psychology from UCLA. He has also been active as a professor, writer, and clinical supervisor.

As a clinical psychologist, he specializes in: issues unique to New York City professionals, couples therapy, young adult informed therapy, cognitive behavioral therapy, acceptance and commitment therapy, interpersonal psychotherapy, mindfulness and meditation, evidence-based treatments, and achieved Diplomate status in cognitive therapy.

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About Dr. Z.

I’m originally from Bolivia, South America, and am a psychologist by training. I’m formally trained in empirically supported treatments, and when I say “formally,” I mean that since 2004 I have received intensive training in them, particularly in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT). 

Over the past 18 years, I have created resources for and worked with overthinkers and overachievers dealing with all types of anxiety-related struggles: perfectionism, procrastination, productivity anxiety, uncertainty intolerance, indecision, impostor phenomenon, overthinking, phobias, rumination, panic, worry and obsessive-compulsive disorder. I absolutely love my job!

In 2019, I was nominated as a fellow by the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science because of my contributions related to the applications of ACT for anxiety-based struggles. I’m the author of seven books and the co-author of three (see the section on previously written books).

I’m the founder and director of the East Bay Behavior Therapy Center, a boutique private center in the San Francisco Bay Area that offers therapy and coaching for anyone experiencing anxiety-based struggles.

In 2023, I gave a TEDx talk, “Stop playing-it-safe and start living” that has more than 264K downloads.

While I’m a psychologist by training and science-based by passion, my style is jargon-free, accessible, caring, and lighthearted; teaching ACT skills doesn’t have to be boring or inaccessible, so I do my best to make every skill I teach—in any format—as engaging as possible. 

I believe that learning to navigate anxiety-based reactions is one of the key skills of the 21st century, and I’m passionate about it.

I'm passionate about disseminating ACT skills for anxiety-based struggles.

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